When pandoras box runs your life

Going thru life with lies and false truths makes us sad people.If what you say has things to be hidden and never talked about then you my friend are living a life of lies.How do I know this??I was raised by my mom and had a dad that lived a life of lies.He was looked at as  man of faith and very righteous,never admitting his part of the pandoras box He and his wife created. You may doubt this and think Im just venting and not speaking truth ,but this is the truth the whole ugly truth which I can share beacuse I lived it.Can he defend himself no he is dead and so is his wife but with all the silence and lies im done hiding it.
 This starts with him cheating on my mom when she was 6 months pregnant with my brother.What woman in her right mind even entertains sleeping with a married man who has a pregnant wife,his I guess cause thats what she did with no regret.She wanted my mom to lose everything and live in poverty which she did,but she had his children and raised us with no help occasionally a small check would come to keep the courts off his back and a visit every 4 years or so.He was too busy raising someone elses kids and 1 he had with her.When I was 16 I went to visit to find out knowbody knew I existed,after all he was a deacon in his church he couldnt be divorced,I dont even know if he ever told anyone he was and whats worse he married his mistress when he was still married to my mom,who does that.How they explained me I dont know,but I definitely was real .I stayed for about a month then went back home.Seeing how he treated them and cared for them hurt.
When my brother started acting up my mom talked to me and I told her to try sending him to his dad,my dad agreed to take him for the summer.
He never came home we tried to call and visit but never got to see him.For 2 years my mom tried but with no resourses and no way of seeing him,even I tried to reach out to him to no avail.
Finding out they told my brother he was never wanted,and my mom gave him to her like she didint want him or love him,such a lie.
I finally see my brother at my dads 65th birthday.They have this home movie playing and we are nowhere in it.After my brother and I are walking on the beach and he says do you remember that camping stuff and where were we.
Where were we, we were the abandoned kids who he didnt want.We were not even a thought for him.
So this is Pandoras box in my life and Im not lieing about this ugly truth anymore.

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